Monthly Archives: April 2008

Weekend #4: Three Movies and a Book

The Saturday Night Movie Marathon turned out to be exactly what I needed after working all day on another big presentation.

To begin with, fewer people turned up — and, while twenty is perhaps the right number for a party — five works better for a movie marathon.

Then, GK turned up with a few DVDs of his own and we decided to leave aside my lineup of classic World War 2 movies and watch ‘Into the Wild’ instead.

I have been dying to watch ‘Into the Wild’ ever since I read about it in the April 2008 issue of David Report. So, as we settled down on my futon with two bottles of wine, a bottle of Johny Walker Black Label scotch, and miscellaneous munchies left over from my last big party, I was already high on the sweet serendipity of being able to watch it so soon after reading about it.

It’s a mind-blowing movie, especially in the context of my experiment, but the spectrum of emotions it triggered off in the next two and a half hours deserves another post.

Introducing Saturday Night Movie Marathons

Saturday Night Movie Marathons

Perhaps the biggest challenge of being off consumption is the difficulty of maintaining an active social life.

When you take away the context in which social interactions happen — eating or drinking out, or going out for a movie or a play — you basically make it really difficult for people to spend time with you.

A home-cooked meal, or a walk along the sea, works well once or twice, but, eventually, your friends are likely to tire of such simple pursuits, even if you don’t.

So, unless you invent new social contexts, not only dating, even meeting friends may become a problem.

It’s less difficult for me, because blogging provides me a context in which I can make new friends and keep up with my old friends. If you read my blog, you already know me, so meeting up for a walk or a home-cooked meal (or even my sleeping on your couch) will probably feel natural.

I’m hoping that Saturday Night Movie Marathons will become another such social context.

The idea is simple. We meet up on a Saturday night at someone’s place and watch four back-to-back movies, from dinner to brunch.

How Can a Man Not Use Aftershave Lotion?

The other night, a lady friend was combing her hair in my bathroom when she decided to investigate the state of my toiletries instead.

She made appreciative sounds when she saw my Bvlgari body lotion and Burberry perfume, but was much perplexed when she couldn’t find any aftershave lotion.

Here’s a more or less faithful reproduction of the conversation that followed –

Lady Friend: (clearing her throat) Which aftershave lotion do you use?

Gaurav: Actually, I don’t use one anymore.

Lady Friend: (resuming her inspection of my toiletries) Oh! So, you use an aftershave gel. Those are good too.

Gaurav: Actually, I don’t use aftershave at all — no lotion, balm, or gel.

Lady Friend: (turns around sharply) How can a man not use aftershave lotion? (encouragingly) Come on, it’s okay if you use Old Spice or something. Anything is forgiven in a man who uses Bvlgari body lotion for a back massage.

Gaurav: (laughs) I told you about my off consumption experiment, didn’t I?

Lady Friend: (tentatively) Yes?

Gaurav: So, basically, throughout the year, I’m not allowed to buy anything that is not a necessity. (pauses) I finished my last bottle of aftershave two weeks back and decided that aftershave was not a necessity.

I’m the King of the World!

Yes, that’s what I said –

I’m the king of the world!

Yes, you heard it right —

I’m the king of the world!

Once more, with a little ‘yay!’ at the end —

I’m the king of the world!Yay!

I hope you remember how it feels to stand up and shout it out –

I’m the king of the world!

If you have forgotten, here’s Leonardo DiCaprio himself to remind you –


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I have made it my life’s mission to be able to say that to myself when I wake up every morning —

I’m the king of the world!

Every little thing that I do is a step towards being able to say that to myself when I wake up every morning —

I’m the king of the world!

Because what’s the point, really, if I am not able to say that to myself when I wake up every morning?

I’m the king of the world!

That line is a declaration of pure, undiluted joy –

The Problem With Being Off Consumption Is That You Can No Longer Buy A Treat For Yourself

The problem with being off consumption is that you can no longer buy a ‘treat’ for yourself in order to snap out of a bad mood. Being off consumption means no comfort food, no self-gifting, no temporary postponement of pain by the rush of adrenalin triggered off by that perfect purchase.

But I knew that when I went off consumption. I knew that, to resist the temptation to buy, I’ll basically need to be happy all the time. I also knew that I’ll face my first big test as soon as I hit a bad day.

Today has been a particularly bad day.

I took three weeks off from work (out of my accumulated leave totaling up to more than hundred days), starting last week, in order to write more, put a little traction behind the book. I did write a little, but I have twenty unwritten posts queued in my mind, fading away with every passing minute.

As it turned out, my three weeks of leave has shrunk to three days, and I even spent a substantial part of those three days working from home.

The Marketer Who Went Off Consumption Gets Its First Interview In Indian Daily Hindustan Times

The Marketer Who Went Off Consumption gets its first interview in Indian daily Hindustan Times.

Last Tuesday, when Riddhi called me to say that she had read my blog and wanted to do an interview, my first (very audible) reaction was –

Ah! Finally the first interview! It has been fifteen days since I started the experiment and I was beginning to wonder why nobody has called for an interview!

To her credit, she didn’t sound shocked at all.

The interview was published yesterday on the front page of the Delhi edition –

HT Delhi 130408 Gaurav Mishra Off Consumption

– and the city section in the Mumbai edition –

HT Mumbai 130408 Gaurav Mishra Off Consumption

One interesting thing I learned yesterday is that different editions of a newspaper may publish different versions of a story.

The Mumbai Edition published the full story — see text below — complete with my rules and URL.

The Delhi Edition published a much shorter version of the story — also available online — but it was on the front page and I’m not complaining at all.

Now, I’m waiting for the television crews to land up on my doorstep. ;-)

The Simple Life

Read The April 2008 Issue of David Report: I Shop Therefore I Am

The April 2008 Issue of David Report: I Shop Therefore I Am (via TreeHugger and Santosh Maharshi) identifies some of the trends that led me towards my off consumption experiment:-

- From conspicuous consumption to conscious consumption.
- From brand-consciousness to background-consciousness.
- From synthetic to organic.
- From mass-produced to hand-crafted.
- From global to local.
- From short-term to sustainable.
- From fashionable to durable.
- From valuing things to valuing insights.
- From fitting in/ standing out to being.
- From buying more to buying less.
- From doing more to doing less.
- From multi-tasking to down-shifting.
- From buying to sharing/ exchanging.
- From owning to experiencing.
- From having to giving.

These trends are already a strong sub-culture in Europe, they are beginning to become visible in the US, and will eventually trickle down to developing countries like Brazil, China and India.

I’m convinced that, ten years from now, it won’t be unusual for someone like me to say that they’ll only buy necessities because they are tired of buying things. It would probably never become mainstream, something most people do, but I’m sure that it would become a strong sub-culture.

Godard’s ‘Le Petit Soldat’ + Evening With My New Friend From Bollywood

Godard Le Petit Soldat The Little Soldier Movie Poster

Undeterred by my earlier escapade with ‘The French Touch’ festival, I returned to the Alliance Francaise auditorium on Thursday evening to watch Jean-Luc Godard’s 1960 film ‘Le Petit Soldat’ (’The Little Soldier’).

Set against the backdrop of the Algerian War, the film narrates the tragic love story of Michel Subord and Anna Karina who fall in love in spite of belonging to warring terrorist groups. The film pulsates with the same restless energy as ‘Breathless’, my favorite Godard movie, which was screened at the festival earlier on Tuesday. So, in spite of the little anti-climax at the end, when the DVD stuck and wouldn’t play, I thoroughly enjoyed the movie, or at least the part of the movie I did watch.

After the movie I ran into G.K. Desai, a Bollywood actor and producer, who has worked in several of Madhur Bhandarkar’s movies.

GK and I first met each other at a 24 hour film festival a few months ago when we watched six movies back to back on a weekend. We again spent half a day together at the Tri Continental Film Festival in January. In fact, at every film festival I now attend, I almost except to see him in his really cute attire of denim shorts, ‘I love California’ t-shirts and baseball cap.

Surabhi Sharma’s Documentary Film ‘Jahaji Music: India in the Caribbean’ + My Own Bhojpuri Connection

During my year of being off-consumption, I’m not allowed to watch movies, plays, or concerts, unless they are free.

However, I’m discovering that Mumbai has a wide variety of free entertainment to offer; all you need is the inclination, and a copy of Time Out Mumbai.

But it was not Time Out, but a flier someone thrust into my hand as I walked out of the Alliance Francaise auditorium after watching Godard’s ‘Little Soldier’ that led me to the Little Theater at NCPA on Friday evening to watch Surabhi Sharma’s documentary film ‘Jahaji Music: India in the Caribbean’.

I saw three stories unfold in front of my eyes during the evening.

The first story was the film itself, a musical road trip in which FTII alumnus Surabhi and academic Tejaswini Niranjana follow maverick Indian singer Remo Fernandes as he travels to the Caribbean to explore potential collaborations and create new work. This is the story of young women at an Indian wedding in Trinidad thrusting their pelvis to Bhojpuri numbers, like dancehall queens in Jamaica. This is a story of Chutney Soca artist Rikki Jai worrying about not sounding like an Indian singing Calypso, then asking his mother to write Chutney Soca lyrics for him in Bhojpuri. This is the story of Remo wearing his disdain for Hindi film music like a talisman, even though his most popular songs are from Hindi films.

I Ate Four McDonald’s Paneer Salsa Wraps Today

I ate four McDonald’s Paneer Salsa Wraps today.

No, I didn’t break down under the weight of my withdrawal symptoms and take a taxi to McDonald’s Colaba outlet and order myself four of them. In fact, I didn’t even have one of my usual craving attacks for them today.

My ex-girlfriend bought them for me, and I couldn’t not eat them.

For context, she’s the same ex-girlfriend who had asked me last year if I had thought about where I’ll keep her, before breaking up with me. As she pointed out to me after she read my post, it was only breakup number 7 out of our 171 breakups, and I was the one who initiated the last one.

For even more context, she’s also the girl who sweetly insisted on paying for our date on Juhu beach and forced a hundred rupee note in my shirt pocket.

As I have mentioned before, our relationship is a little complicated.

You see, both of us love each other, but our relationship suffers from several compatibility time bombs. Compatibility time bombs — if you haven’t read Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who’s Right and Avoiding Who’s Wrong by Barbara De Angelis — are external factors outside your control that make it impossible for you to be happy together as a couple.