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What Should I Do With My Life?

Some books force you to drop whatever you are doing, find the nearest mirror, look yourself in the eye and ask difficult questions of yourself. ‘What Should I Do with My Life?’ by Po Bronson is one such book.

The first time I read it, more than a year back, I ended up weeping in public at Istanbul airport.

The second time I read it, almost six months back, I decided to start searching for something I could devote my life to.

When I moved into my new house last December, I thought of an excerpt from the book and promised myself that I won’t let my lovely house trap me into a life of complacent comfort.

When I spent a weekend, three months back, reading Judith Levine’s ‘Not Buying It: My Year Without Shopping’ and decided to go off consumption for a year, it was another excerpt from ‘What Should I Do with My Life?’ that helped me make the decision –

Shouldn’t I make money first — to fund my dream? The notion that there’s an order to your working life is an almost classic assumption: Pay your dues, and then tend to your dream. I expected to find numerous examples of the truth of this path. But I didn’t find any.

A Life That Fits Into a Backpack

When I moved into my new house last December, I was delighted. It’s a beautiful house overlooking the sea, walking distance away from office, in the costliest residential address in India. In fact, it’s such a lovely house that it was featured in a Mid-Day story on cool bachelor pads.

It would have been easy for me to look at the house as a symbol of how far I had come in life, especially in the context of where I had started from.

Instead, I remembered this paragraph from page 186 of Po Bronson’s life-changing book What Should I Do with My Life?, in which “boom wrangler” Heidi Olson explains her wanderlust —

I decided to go to Oxford for a year, because, well, it was Oxford. I told the other women at work, and one said, ‘I wish I could just up and go to Oxford.’ So I asked, ‘Why don’t you?’ She said, ‘I would, but I bought a couch.’ I always remembered that moment, and I never wanted to be that woman. I never wanted to be trapped by my past, my belongings, my commitments.

A Free Cup of Coffee at Starbucks

Unthinkable futures are probabilities we tend to dismiss without thinking, scenarios that seem too far-fetched to be true today, but may seem obvious in retrospect tomorrow.

Inspired by the unthinkable futures game between Kevin Kelly and Brian Eno from fifteen years back, I made my own list of the ten unthinkable futures of marketing yesterday.

It turns out that the #1 unthinkable future on my list is already here —

1. No products will have price tags anymore. People will pick up products from the mall, or order them online and have them delivered home, and pay only what they want to pay.

I was aware of the numerous examples of authors and musicians giving away their books and music for free, but I discovered two examples of restaurants giving away food for free, and allowing the patrons to decide what they want to pay for it.

The first one is Seva Cafe in Ahmedabad (via Global Oneness Project via Meryl) –

— and the second is Same Cafe in Denver –

We Are All Post-Nader Shoppers

I’m re-reading Naomi Klein’s ‘No Logo’ for the third (fourth?) time, and it’s obvious to me that brands will never again trigger off the blind trust they used to, however hard we try as marketers.

All that we can do as marketers is to accept that we are all cynical post-Nader shoppers, and then work around that reality, like Paco Underhill does, on page 166 of ‘Why We Buy’

Another reason touch and trial have become so important is the waning power of product brand name. When consumers believed in the companies behind the big brands, their belief went a long way towards selling things. Now, we are all individualists.

For that matter, we are all post-Nader shoppers — we’ll believe it when we see/ smell/ touch/ hear/ taste/ try it. Depending on what we’re buying and what it costs, there’s a healthy skepticism (or is it a nagging doubt) in our heads that must be put to rest before we can buy at ease. We need to feel a certain level of confidence in a product and its value, which comes only through hard evidence, not from TV commercials or word-of-mouth.

Possession Without Payment

In a recent post, I naively wondered –

if there is a way for a brand to make people happy, and benefit from it, without asking them to buy anything.

In a world that will soon be driven by the “economics of free”, that may not be a trivial question anymore.

Then I read this paragraph from Paco Underhill’s ‘Why We Buy’

When does a shopper actually possess something? Technically, of course, it happens at the instant that the item is exchanged for money — at the register. But the register is the least pleasing part of the store; nobody is savoring the joy of possession at that moment. In fact, all that is experienced is loss (of money) and pain (of waiting in line, of waiting for the credit card approval, of waiting for the clerk to get the thing into the bag so you can leave). Clearly, possession is an emotional and spiritual process, not a technical one. Possession begins when the shopper’s senses start to latch onto the object. It begins in the eyes and then in the touch. Once the thing is in your hand, or on your back, or in your mouth, you can be said to have begun the process of taking it. Paying for it is a mere technicality, so the sooner a thing is placed in a shopper’s hand, or the easier it is for the shopper to try it or sip it or drive it around the block, the more easily it will change ownership, from the seller to the buyer.

I Want to Sit in a Cafe with Friends and Feed Myself on Convivial Conversation

Three months back, I was someone who tried to never eat alone — at least three times in a week, I would either eat out, or invite someone home for ordered pizza/ home-made pasta and a shared bottle of wine.

In the last three months, I haven’t been inside a restaurant even once, I have entered a coffee shop only to use the washrooms, and the one time I ordered pizza home, it resulted in an upset stomach in a classic cautionary tale turn of events. In the beginning, I compensated by inviting my friends over more often, but now that my wine collection has run dry, and my stock of munchies is over, even throwing a house party isn’t as much fun anymore. As a result, instead of socializing thrice a week, I’m meeting my friends once in three weeks. In fact, I think it has been more than a month since I spent any time with my best friends Kanishka and Avantika.

In the spirit of scientific curiosity, I took away my social context, knowing fully well that —

unless you invent new social contexts, not only dating, even meeting friends may become a problem.

Sad Shoppers Spend More Than Happy Shoppers

I have known from the beginning that the key to my off-consumption experiment is to be happy most of the time, because being off-consumption means you cannot resolve to self-gifting to snap out of sadness

The problem with being off consumption is that you can no longer buy a ‘treat’ for yourself in order to snap out of a bad mood. Being off consumption means no comfort food, no self-gifting, no temporary postponement of pain by the rush of adrenalin triggered off by that perfect purchase.

But I knew that when I went off consumption. I knew that, to resist the temptation to buy, I’ll basically need to be happy all the time. I also knew that I’ll face my first big test as soon as I hit a bad day.

Now, I have scientific research to back up my hunch.

According to a study published in the June edition of Psychological Science magazine, Misery Is Not Miserly: Sad and Self-Focused Individuals Spend More (via WSJ via Chhavi), the emotional well-being of shoppers can affect both their eagerness to buy and the prices they’re willing to pay –

Why I Have Turned Off My TV

I was introduced to the ‘Turn Off Your TV‘ movement by a funny cartoon strip on Greg William’s BlogJam, based on an equally funny post by Phil Vischer on why any movement to switch off the TV set is a no starter —

BlogJam TV Artificial Life

When I decided to step off the work-watch-spend treadmill, TV was the first to go.

I haven’t watched any TV for more than a year now, and I don’t miss it much. TV (especially in a pre-TiVo India) expects us to sit through too much advertising and allows us almost no choice in terms of what we want to watch and when we want to watch it. I agree with Steve Jobs that –

You watch television to turn your brain off and you work on your computer when you want to turn your brain on.

– and I prefer my brains turned on.

I am not sure, though, if my children will forgive me for trying to ban Tom & Jerry from the living room.

The Three and a Half Feet Tall Consumer

I often wonder if my (not yet born) children will approve of me, forgive my own less than perfect relationship with my parents, indulge my quirky ban on mass media, and find something in me to love and look up to. As I read page 141-142 of Paco Underhill’s ‘Why We Buy‘, I realized that, while my children may forgive my many faults, they’ll probably not forgive me for trying to ban Tom & Jerry from the living room –

Today both parents are almost certainly working at jobs, which means buying that cannot be done over lunch hours must take place during times the family might happily spend together. Shopping then becomes an acceptable leisure outing — less pleasurable, perhaps, than a week at Disney World, but not entirely without potential for fun. Also, divorce is common enough that the single parent (either one) in the company of the brood is a common sight in movie theaters, restaurants and stores. Kids go everywhere because we take them, but once there, they alter the shopping landscape in obvious and subtle ways.

The Work-Watch-Spend Treadmill

I have already written about the work-watch-spend treadmill in my post on Annie Leonard’s ‘The Story of Stuff‘, but here’s a little excerpt from the annotated script of the documentary very thoughtfully provided by Annie —

So, in the U.S. we have more stuff than ever before, but polls show that our national happiness is actually declining. Our national happiness peaked sometime in the 1950s, the same time as this consumption mania exploded. Hmmm. Interesting coincidence.

I think I know why. We have more stuff but we have less time for the things that really make us happy: family, friends, leisure time. We’re working harder than ever. Some analysts say that we have less leisure time now than in Feudal Society.

And do you know what the two main activities are that we do with the scant leisure time we have? Watch TV and shop. In the U.S., we spend 3—4 times as many hours shopping as our counterparts in Europe do.