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An Ode to Sensual Shopping From My Stimulus Starved Self

Why We Buy‘ by Paco Underhill is one of my all time favorite books on marketing, but, it was only when I reached chapter twelve — The Sensual Shopper — that I remembered why. Here’s Paco Underhill’s ode to shopping from pages 161-167 of ‘Why We Buy‘ –

What is shopping?

I don’t mean what is buying. I don’t mean what is entering a public place where goods are kept until they can be exchanged for money. I definitely do not mean what is retailing, or what is commerce, or what is trade.

I mean what is shopping? Who does it, and how? How does one go about this shopping activity?

For the purpose of this discussion, let’s stipulate that shopping is more than the simple, dutiful acquisition of whatever is absolutely necessary to one’s life. It’s more than what we call the “grab and go” — you need cornflakes, you grab the cornflakes, you pay for the cornflakes, and haveaniceday. The kind of activity I mean involves experiencing the portion of the world that has been deemed for sale, using our senses — sight, touch, smell, taste, hearing — as the basis for choosing this and rejecting that. It’s the sensory aspect of the decision making process that’s most intriguing because how else do we experience anything? But it’s especially critical in this context because virtually all unplanned purchase — and many planned ones, too — come as a result of the shopper seeing, touching, smelling, or tasting something that promises pleasure, if not total fulfillment.

I Ate Four McDonald’s Paneer Salsa Wraps Today

I ate four McDonald’s Paneer Salsa Wraps today.

No, I didn’t break down under the weight of my withdrawal symptoms and take a taxi to McDonald’s Colaba outlet and order myself four of them. In fact, I didn’t even have one of my usual craving attacks for them today.

My ex-girlfriend bought them for me, and I couldn’t not eat them.

For context, she’s the same ex-girlfriend who had asked me last year if I had thought about where I’ll keep her, before breaking up with me. As she pointed out to me after she read my post, it was only breakup number 7 out of our 171 breakups, and I was the one who initiated the last one.

For even more context, she’s also the girl who sweetly insisted on paying for our date on Juhu beach and forced a hundred rupee note in my shirt pocket.

As I have mentioned before, our relationship is a little complicated.

You see, both of us love each other, but our relationship suffers from several compatibility time bombs. Compatibility time bombs — if you haven’t read Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who’s Right and Avoiding Who’s Wrong by Barbara De Angelis — are external factors outside your control that make it impossible for you to be happy together as a couple.

The Ten Commandments of Being Off Consumption: What Is Allowed, What Is Not

Now that we know why I have gone off consumption, it’s time to lay out the rules for my year-long off-consumption experiment, list down what is allowed and what isn’t.

The intent of the experiment is to spend an year — from Mar 23, 2008 to March 22, 2009 — without buying anything that is not a necessity.

I have deliberately avoided defining what is a necessity because one of the most interesting aspects of the experiment for me is to “discover” what I think of as a necessity and how it changes with context.

However, here are the ten rules — the ten commandments, if you must — I’ll use through my year of being off consumption –

Rule #1: I’ll continue to consume what I already have; when I run out of it, I’ll replenish it only if it’s a necessity.

I’m allowed to drink wine until my wine cellar is empty, I’m allowed to read the books and watch the DVDs I already own, and I’m allowed to fly if I’m using my frequent flier miles.